# Householder Life *On Krishna conscious married life* --- ### Real Protection Is Krishna > If one becomes Kṛṣṇa conscious, then he doesn't require husband. He does not require. He... She knows that "Kṛṣṇa is my protector. Why shall I artificially seek after father or...?" And what protection, for a few days, either the father or the son or the husband may give? Real protection is Kṛṣṇa. This is temporary. But because we have got this material body we require some. In this way... And this kind of hypocrisy—they have taken *sannyāsa* and mixing with woman—this is not to be allowed. If you want woman, you get yourself married, live respectfully. We have no objection. But this hypocrisy should be stopped. — [[spoken/1977/770107r1.bom|Room Conversation, Bombay, January 7, 1977]] --- ### What Is Wrong to Be a Grhastha? > What is the wrong to become *gṛhastha?* I was *gṛhastha,* Bhaktivinoda Ṭhākura was *gṛhastha.* My Guru Mahārāja was *brahmacārī.* Just see his character. Caitanya Mahāprabhu was *gṛhastha,* but when He took *sannyāsa:* "Oh, I am now..." Not showbottle. That is wanted. That is ideal. He married twice. Bhaktivinoda Ṭhākura married twice. Caitanya Mahāprabhu married twice. What is the wrong there? One has to become pure devotee, that's all. — [[spoken/1977/770107r1.bom|Room Conversation, Bombay, January 7, 1977]] --- ### Grhastha Life Is a Concession > This *gṛhastha* life is a concession for sex life. Otherwise, there is no need of *gṛhastha* life. But everything can be used to make the best use of a bad bargain. That is another thing. Actually, to become free from all responsibility and anxieties, if one remains a *brahmacārī,* that is very good. That is the recommendation of *śāstra.* But if you cannot... Because the material world is going on under sex impulse. By nature the sex impulse is there. He will agitate you. But if you can control by becoming a rigid *brahmacārī,* that is better. But it is difficult. Therefore this concession is given. — [[spoken/1975/750330r1.may|Conversation with a German Girl and Devotees, Mayapur, March 30, 1975]] --- ### Grhastha Life From Twenty-Five to Fifty > Just like we have taken *sannyāsa.* What is that? "Oh, we have no sex life only. Otherwise, we are also eating, we are also sleeping." So that is also stopped in good old age. In old age, if a person like me, at the age of eighty years, if I would have shopped for sex life, does it look very good? Young men, they are allowed. That's all right. But a young..., old man is going to the club and spending for sex life so much money. Therefore younger generation, they're allowed *gṛhastha* life from twenty-five years to fifty years. That's all. After that, stop sex life. — [[spoken/1976/760427r1.auc|Room Conversation, Auckland, April 27, 1976]] --- ### Grhastha Is Allowed, Only Concession > So this is civilization. What is the use of sex life? It is simply entanglement. Therefore, at the last stage, one is supposed to become *sannyāsī.* What is *sannyāsī? Vānaprastha, sannyāsī, brahmacārī—*no sex life. Out of the three..., four different status of life, the *brahmacārī* has no sex life, the *vānaprastha* has no sex life, the *sannyāsī* has no sex life. Only the *gṛhastha.* That means it is prohibitory. It is allowed—it is a simply concession to the person who cannot remain without sex life. It is simply a concession. — [[spoken/1974/740528mw.rom|Morning Walk, Rome, May 28, 1974]] --- ### Grhastha Can Preach > ...for all *gṛhastha* devotees, you should begin preaching amongst the *gṛhasthas.* It is not forbidden for the *gṛhasthas* to preach, because preaching is required everywhere. Arjuna was *gṛhastha.* So *yei kṛṣṇa-tattva-vettā sei guru haya.* One must know the science of Kṛṣṇa. Then you can become preacher. It doesn't matter whether one is *sannyāsī* or *gṛhastha,* or a *brāhmaṇa* or a *śūdra.* It doesn't matter. If one knows the science of Kṛṣṇa then he can become *guru.* — [[spoken/1974/740309mw.may|Morning Walk, Mayapur, March 9, 1974]] --- ### Attachment Increases, Real Purpose Forgotten > The whole world is attached with one another on the basis of sex. So the sex attraction increases as we increase our products of sex. *Gṛha-kṣetra-sutāpta-vittaiḥ.* The products of sex... The first combination is with wife, and then we want some apartment or place to live together; then produce children; then we want society; then we want money, wealth. In this way go on increasing, the real purpose of life is forgotten. — [[spoken/1969/690331sb.sf|Srimad-Bhagavatam 7.6.9-17, San Francisco, March 31, 1969]] --- ### Live With Husband and Wife Prestigiously > After all, young man, fallen down—that's all right. It is by nature's way. But marry that girl. That I am insisting from the very beginning, that no friendly liaison. If you want, get one nice... They are all of them qualified. Get one wife and live like a gentleman. Similarly woman. Live with one husband prestigiously, with children. What is the wrong there? We have so many *gṛhastha* devotees. — [[spoken/1977/770107r1.bom|Room Conversation, Bombay, January 7, 1977]] --- *8 verified verbatim quotes from Srila Prabhupada's spoken lectures and conversations on householder life*